Personal Wedding planning dilemma- my mom

akrebecca

I love when the 'moment' is intimate. To me it means a lot more when there is no huge production & hoopla involved in the proposal. Just a simple 'I love you. Will you be my wife/husband?'

Best wishes in whatever you do with your mom.

P.S. Don't forget...you can always 'elope'.

Tropicalburstqt2

Chris, your list of the way you wanted it is practically the same as mine. I told my DH that when he proposed he had better ask my father first, it couldn't be on a holiday or a birthday, & I better be only him & I. He didn't get on his knee, but that's only because I told him I wasn't getting out of the car & that he'd better shut the door because it was too cold outside. I thought for sure that I would already know wayyyy in advance that he was going to ask me to marry him & that there would be no way he could be able to pull it off, but sure enough, he did. Gotta love surprises!!

WLMcCoy

My thoughts, too. If she is not helping paying, why does she get to make decisions. It would be different if she couldn't afford, too, but since she is being rude, it's different. Maybe I'm a little too tough love & hold a grudge. I would not involve her in any part of any of the planning until she changed her tune. Good Luck & lots of hugs, it must be difficult!

kcmckay

Chris first congrats I'm so happy for you! I love weddings! I'm actively helping my brother and future SIL plan theirs! Anyway I'm sorry you are going through this. I can say regarding what I've read in between the lines of your posts about your parents I think I had a similar situation and totally get it. Unfortunately my mom passed away before DH and I were even engaged. So I didn't have her there at all which would have been great and was hard but I got through. I won't get into the dad situation.

We also paid for our wedding completely by ourselves and because of that we did what we wanted and invited who we could afford to feed. Luckily for me his parents really didn't try to interfere too much. They went the traditional route which is why they offered no financial backing; because it's the brides family's responsibility; besides paying for rehearsal dinner and gave us a sizeable check as a gift. Anyway I'm getting off track.

While I don't know exactly what you are going through, still find a way to enjoy this process. You've found the man that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Don't let anyone else ruin your moment! Do what you can to make the best of situation. Good luck and if you ever want to "talk" uncomfortable living situations with parents don't hesitate to pm me.